I apologize if you reached out to me and I just replied with a link to this post, or if you are just finding this out from a social media share. We are blessed with more people who love us and are reaching out to us than we can handle replying to. Praise God for that and forgive us for shooting you this form letter.
It is with great sadness that I share the news that Bailey’s life support devices will be removed Friday, April 21 6pm edt. The expectation is that she will not live on her own for even an hour. As she desired, after she is deceased, her organs will be used to help extend the earthly life of several people. As horrific as Bailey’s death is, we rejoice to know that she will help others and look forward, hopefully, to meeting these people who receive the necessary parts to sustain their lives.
We have wrestled with this decision with which Erin and I have been providentially presented since we first heard of her diagnosis. We do not take lightly that in the area of palliative care and organ harvesting that there is much evil in the world and many people have been murdered or assisted in self-murder through these processes. It is with a lot of prayer, a little fasting, and godly counsel that we have decided for certain that we are not assisting in or authorizing the breaking of God’s sixth commandment.
Someday I’d like to blog or podcast through the thought process. I take this utterly seriously.
One loving sister in the Lord actually reached out to us to ensure that we are aligned with God’s law. We recognize how hard that must be for someone to do, but her love for God and for us was greater than her fear of offending us, and that brings us great joy.
We are sure that people have prayed for us more than we can know in this life and are grateful for the many ways people have reached out. Each gift, text, card, call, or help is something we cherish. And we may never be able to truly thank everyone for that. So please take this as your thank you if you have served us!
Our life is a flurry of activity now: coordinating childcare for our younger boys, ministering to each other, funeral and cemetery plot shopping, and trying to keep up with my work a bit. We have had very little time for a lot of what we often take for granted. I have been encouraged by some healthy habits which my wife and I have taken on which are helping us through the physical difficulties of this trial.
I hope no one reads my words and thinks “He’s complaining.” I’m not complaining. Our God in the Heavens does all that He pleases and that includes His righteous decree of all things that come to pass. We rejoice to know that He is working all things for the good of His elect and know that even in our intense sadness He is truly our only anchor in the storm.
I will update again when there is time and something to update. Until then, consider that you, dear reader, will also one day face death. You don’t know when it will be, nor if you’ll have time to rethink things before it comes upon you. Are you washed in the blood of the spotless lamb, Jesus Christ? Are you fully resting on His work for your soul’s salvation? Or does God’s wrath abide on you still? Come to Christ for the forgiveness of sins today. He is faithful and just to forgive and cleanse everyone who calls on Him.
How You Can Help
We appreciate your continued prayer for us as we go through this. Practical needs arise daily but aren’t always predictable. My brother came and did yardwork today for me. An abolitionist friend Laura is doing some housecleaning. My ex-wife is bringing my mom to see Bailey. Everyone in our lives has been supportive locally and the Christian community around the world even has reached out with messages and prayer to our Great God.
Several people have brought up how expensive this whole ordeal is. Funeral expenses? Parking, gas, eating out near the hospital … it’s all unexpected. But God has been good to us, and we are not asking for money. But if God has blessed you and led you to help decrease the financial burden of this, there are a few ways to give. It’s easier to just put that here in one place than try to answer each individual who asks.
- You can send us money over Zelle at 1Samuel1522.firstname.lastname@example.org
- You can send us money over Paypal (choose friend to friend) at PayPal.Me
- Instead of sending money to us, you can support my preaching and evangelism ministry with a credit card by clicking here
See the previous posts about the situation here:
Priscilla Hannan says
It is with a heavy heart that I comment on this post. You and Erin are experiencing one of the hardest trials in this life. May God raise your family and Bailey up and comfort you. 🙏
Linda W Stewart says
So sorry for your heart ache. Bailey is beautiful and kind to help others. May you be held in Jesus’s strength and comfort. Prayers for your family.
Mitch Lauer says
I have prayed for, and am confident that the tenderness of your hearts that is being wrought by this trial and affliction will result in abundance of fruit produced for the Lord’s kingdom and glory
Ronald R Brown says
May the Lord’s peace and love shower you and yours, Michael.
Maria Beigel says
Michael, we have been praying for you and your family and we grieve with you as you process the loss of your daughter. I have been so encouraged by reading your updates at your faithfulness through it all. I’m thankful for all the lives you’ve undoubtedly witnessed to as you go through this trial.
Ricky & Elesa Gantz says
We have been praying and will continue to do so dear Brother and Sister
Bethany Rios says
The Rios family continues to lift you in prayer. I am so sorry for your pain and suffering. Grateful for your submission to Christ in this most difficult time. We love you.
The Muniak Family says
Continuing to pray.
Goodknight Mason says
May God grant you a peace in this trying time. Sad providence indeed, but grace even in it. Thank you for taking time to keep us updated brother! Soli Deo Gloria!
How encouraging to see you reference Romans 8:28 in the valley of your dark trial. If we do not need the bedrock of this truth under our feet in such a time, then when? God’s peace to you and your family.
We are not built for loss.
My thoughts and my heart are on your transition ahead.
Brooke Anglin says
I’ve only known you on social media and I’m unsure how we got disconnected there, but I am lamenting your trials with you and your wife and praying that the Lord would continue to give you the strength that only He can and comfort you all. May many come to know Him through you and Erin!
John Chisham says
My dear brother and sister, I mourn with you. May the God of peace walk beside you in the valley of death.
Rachel Burkey says
Michael, I have been and will continue to be praying for you and your family. Your work to communicate what you guys are going through in these updates is a great testimony of your faith, and has been very encouraging. I pray the Lord is glorified continually throughout all of this. Love in Christ
Connie Watson says
My heart is saddened.
I have been praying and will continue to pray. I’m asking the Lord to provide your needs as individual family members and as a family.
God bless you and give you His strength as you go through this time of loss.
Lord Jesus, please give this family strength.
James Moore says
I love you dear brother and sister. We weep with you!
I am in Youngstown this weekend as we bury my wife’s niece who overdosed on fentanyl last week. I wish I had time to come down there and be with ya’ll.
You and Erin’s posts of Scripture and Hymns have been a great blessing and help to us during this time and I give thanks to the Lord for your lives and testimony to God’s goodness during such dark times.
Love in Christ,
James & Maribeth Moore
Jeffrey Wolski says
Was completely unaware until I saw the FB. Prayers for you and your family.
I find it sad you had to point out shes adopted and not your “blood” you sound more embarrassed than caring , and to bag on her and call her troubled when she can’t defend herself? You should be ashamed
Michael Coughlin says
I’m sorry that the public school failed to teach you reading comprehension. This is a failure for which all us taxpayers must own up.
I’d say thanks for commenting but I won’t lie, I wish you hadn’t.